Could anybody give me some body image advice?
Like, what do you do to feel more confident about yourself? What do you tell yourself when you get those thoughts like “oh, I’m so fat”? I’m not overweight, I’m a healthy weight, and I exercise often, but I have horrible self-image, and I really want to fix that. So, any tips/tricks/etc.? I’ve already heard sleeping naked…
Thanks for any advice!
Hi! I just found your blog when I was searching through tags… it’s lovely! I really hope what I have to say helps you and any of your followers going through something similar. If you or any of your followers wants someone to talk to a little more, even if it’s just chatting, I’m honoured to be there for anyone. Please talk through it if you need to; don’t hide the way you feel. I hope you have a great day!
Even something simple can really help, I find. Every day, try to come up with one thing that makes you happy, one thing you like about yourself, or one good thing about your day or your month or your year so far, even if it has nothing to do with your body or the way you feel/look. Get a notebook and talk about how sunny it was or how there was hardly any traffic on the way to work this morning, and feel free to read over past entries again. Getting in the positive frame of mind, even if it itself has nothing to do with your confidence, can really help. Try to improve the way you think and see things overall.
Maybe try meditation or yoga. Try not to look in the mirror too much or for too long at a time. Know that most likely, you are your own worst critic and others love things you probably dislike about yourself. I have heard about sleeping naked as well but don’t necessarily recommend it because I think if you’re just starting to work on feeling good about yourself, it could be a big step and it may not help much if you’re not ready. Maybe buy matching underwear sets to start, and wear them together.
Do something you normally don’t do. Maybe go read some original poetry at an open mic night and don’t apologize when people clap and think you’re amazing and talented because YOU ARE. :) Or start with something a bit smaller, like wearing no makeup every day for the whole weekend or the whole week (whatever your pace is!) without letting this stop you from going out to restaurants or grocery shopping. You could also try to focus on eating specific foods that help with body anxiety and self-consciousness. Foods rich in anti-oxidants, omega-3s, b vitamins, etc. help improve mood and reduce anxiety, which could help you get back into a positive frame of mind overall, and help you to be less critical of yourself.
It may feel like you’re not making enough progress or that you’re still really struggling, but remember that going slow is okay. As long as your steps are working towards your goal, you’ll reach it. Don’t give up on yourself. Try to be happy, but if you are sad, be sad. I can’t explain how important this is. Do not make yourself feel guilty for having a bad day, do not shame yourself out of feeling the way you feel. You’re allowed to be self-conscious sometimes. Forbidding yourself the expression of emotions won’t do anything to actually change the way you feel. Crying can be therapeutic so at the end of the day, cry if you need to. You can write down the way you feel if you promise that when you’re finished writing it, you won’t look back and read over it again and will try not to dwell on past entries in the bad-day-book.
I know that body anxiety can sometimes lead to depression. It is hard to feel imperfect or somehow inadequate and you are not alone if you feel this way sometimes. Gaining confidence is a slow, slow progression and it’s really hard sometimes but every day is a new day.
Give yourself a chance for happiness, even if you may not realize you deserve one. You deserve one.