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chekhov:

There’s an old urban legend about holding your breath whenever you walk by a clump of weeaboos

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amatchstickblow:

Like, what do you do to feel more confident about yourself? What do you tell yourself when you get those thoughts like “oh, I’m so fat”? I’m not overweight, I’m a healthy weight, and I exercise often, but I have horrible self-image, and I really want to fix that. So, any tips/tricks/etc.? I’ve already heard sleeping naked…

Thanks for any advice!

Hi! I just found your blog when I was searching through tags… it’s lovely! I really hope what I have to say helps you and any of your followers going through something similar. If you or any of your followers wants someone to talk to a little more, even if it’s just chatting, I’m honoured to be there for anyone. Please talk through it if you need to; don’t hide the way you feel. I hope you have a great day! 

Even something simple can really help, I find. Every day, try to come up with one thing that makes you happy, one thing you like about yourself, or one good thing about your day or your month or your year so far, even if it has nothing to do with your body or the way you feel/look. Get a notebook and talk about how sunny it was or how there was hardly any traffic on the way to work this morning, and feel free to read over past entries again. Getting in the positive frame of mind, even if it itself has nothing to do with your confidence, can really help. Try to improve the way you think and see things overall. 

Maybe try meditation or yoga. Try not to look in the mirror too much or for too long at a time. Know that most likely, you are your own worst critic and others love things you probably dislike about yourself. I have heard about sleeping naked as well but don’t necessarily recommend it because I think if you’re just starting to work on feeling good about yourself, it could be a big step and it may not help much if you’re not ready. Maybe buy matching underwear sets to start, and wear them together.

Do something you normally don’t do. Maybe go read some original poetry at an open mic night and don’t apologize when people clap and think you’re amazing and talented because YOU ARE. :) Or start with something a bit smaller, like wearing no makeup every day for the whole weekend or the whole week (whatever your pace is!) without letting this stop you from going out to restaurants or grocery shopping. You could also try to focus on eating specific foods that help with body anxiety and self-consciousness. Foods rich in anti-oxidants, omega-3s, b vitamins, etc. help improve mood and reduce anxiety, which could help you get back into a positive frame of mind overall, and help you to be less critical of yourself. 

It may feel like you’re not making enough progress or that you’re still really struggling, but remember that going slow is okay. As long as your steps are working towards your goal, you’ll reach it. Don’t give up on yourself. Try to be happy, but if you are sad, be sad. I can’t explain how important this is. Do not make yourself feel guilty for having a bad day, do not shame yourself out of feeling the way you feel. You’re allowed to be self-conscious sometimes. Forbidding yourself the expression of emotions won’t do anything to actually change the way you feel. Crying can be therapeutic so at the end of the day, cry if you need to. You can write down the way you feel if you promise that when you’re finished writing it, you won’t look back and read over it again and will try not to dwell on past entries in the bad-day-book. 

I know that body anxiety can sometimes lead to depression. It is hard to feel imperfect or somehow inadequate and you are not alone if you feel this way sometimes. Gaining confidence is a slow, slow progression and it’s really hard sometimes but every day is a new day.

Give yourself a chance for happiness, even if you may not realize you deserve one. You deserve one. 

If someone you are interested in is single when you are single: 

1. Ask them out. 

2. Don’t feel weird for asking someone out because you are a girl or because your friends tell you “the guy should do it”. It’s no more or less romantic for you to initiate a date based on your gender.  

3. Everyone is at least a little afraid of rejection. It’s not always easy. It’s okay. Try not to let that stop you. 

BECAUSE: 

If someone makes you feel stupid for asking them out, i.e. “You? HAHAHAHA I would never!” 

1. They’re an asshole. 

2. You can do way better. 

cloudwatchingangels:

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rifa:

lisasedai:

i hate it when

there’s like a feeling in your gut that something is very wrong and the feeling is so strong that it makes you feel physically ill but the problem is that there’s actually nothing wrong so you don’t know what to do

and the feeling just doesn’t go away

OH MY GOD OTHER PEOPLE GET THIS

what if you have a soul mate and thats what happens 

when theyre in trouble 

(via talking-trees)

Today, news spread that Paris Jackson (the late Michael’s daughter) attempted suicide in the middle of the night. She took pills and slashed herself with a meat cleaver. Thankfully, she called a suicide hotline and the worker called police, who rushed her to the hospital and saved her life. 

I read this in an article online and decided to comment my condolences and my hope that she finds strength and my urge for others to respect her and her family. Almost every other individual who commented condolences on this article said something, however, that really bothered me. 

“What a shame! She is such a beautiful girl!” 

This has always frustrated me. What does that mean? What difference does it make, especially when you’ve been through what Paris has been through (and I’m almost certain we know only the slightest bit of that as it is) at such a young age. Why should her looks make up for her father’s murder, the current trial against Michael’s tour promoters, or the media circus suddenly surrounding her that Michael tried very hard to protect her from while he was alive? Of course, you have the “Michael Jackson is a rapist/child molester!” comments found on every article with his name in the tag, but despite how incredibly disrespectful and damaging a comment like that is, I personally just attribute it to trolls or such insensitive people that they probably won’t budge on their ignorance at the request of me who is, to them, just another meaningless stranger on the internet. 

The “She’s so beautiful!” comments bother me because they are sincere. The commenters genuinely believe this has a weight, or that it is a reason she should not be depressed, or that she should focus on her eyeliner instead of her father if she wants to be happy. I hate the, “She was so beautiful!” comments on a notice that someone has passed on, I hate the shock and mass media frenzy whenever an attractive woman (especially white) commits a crime. I hate the idea that valuable, interesting women are also good-looking women and that mentally unbalanced or financially unstable or lonely people are only unattractive people and there is no in between. 

“How could such a pretty woman commit a crime?”

“How could such a pretty woman be depressed or unhappy with anything in her life?”

“How could such a pretty woman be so boring? How could such a traditionally unattractive woman be intelligent?” 

Depression literally has nothing to do with the way you look and if knowing that your eye color is what’s viewed as “most attractive” in today’s society is an actual consolation to the death of your father or the public worldwide falling-apart of your entire life, you are even worse off than people originally assumed. 

Everyone who says, “You’re so pretty! You should never be sad!” has an unbelievably thin grasp of life or people or mental anguish or shame or pressure and very often, these are people with a significant amount of influence over at least one person’s life and that’s really frustrating.